The One Parenting Trick that Fixed Everything

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Lynna Sutherland

Lynna believes that the gospel moves the homeschool mom from performance to possibility. She offers support for moms overwhelmed by homeschooling multiple ages and distracted by constant sibling conflict. Ditch what slows you down and look to Jesus. (Hebrews 12:1-2)

Want to Fix Everything?

I included this graphic in my SOS (Subscriber-Only Saturday) Newsletter last weekend.  Did you see it?  Have you been curious to see what I would have to share?  Wouldn’t you love to have a trick that will fix all of your parenting problems?!? Well, I’ve really gone above and beyond, because I’ve included it in a pretty little printable for you!  Here it is!

The One Parenting TrickThat Fixed Everything
You actually can print it out if you really want to. It is linked to a PDF.

Sorry About That

Do you feel a little manipulated?  Bait and switch, huh?  I am sorry about that.  I just wanted to get you thinking a little.  So, why did you click on that link?  What brought you over here to read this post?

Maybe you were thinking that because I included a picture of two sweet little girls who appear to adore each other, or because I’m a homeschool mom of seven, I might really know something you don’t know.  Maybe you thought I was the holder of secret knowledge – the key to the inner circle?  Friend, I am a mama just like you.  My kids (and I!) have good days and bad, beautiful moments and ugly ones.  You would not believe how many tries it took to get that one cute shot.  (Or maybe you would!)

Maybe you are feeling desperate.  Maybe you’re confused, discouraged and hurting, looking for answers – anything – that will be better than what you are trying now.  Maybe this is so much harder than you thought it would be that you are convinced there must have been a page you missed somewhere.  Maybe you are hoping there really is a secret key that will release you from the crazy you are experiencing!  Oh, dear sister!  I am so glad you are here.  There isn’t a fix, but there is help.  And it starts by taking this journey together!  Keep reading!

Maybe you were betting that I’d blog all about the one “fix” you’re currently trying out in your home, the one you’re banking on to be “the answer”, the thing you’re putting all your hope in.  Maybe you were guessing this would be the link you could share on your Facebook wall that would finally get all your friends on board.  Nope.  Not even.  But if that’s you, I’m glad you’re here, too.  You and I, we’re a lot alike, actually.  Let’s chat.  Keep reading!

Maybe you’ve been around the block enough times to know that there isn’t a silver bullet – a one-size-fixes-all parenting solution.  Perhaps you were just curious to see what kind of snake oil I had bought into.  Maybe have a little knowing chuckle at my expense.  Touche.  I deserved that!

Or, maybe you were smart enough to guess that I’d do a little bait and switch, but you thought my answer would be more of the spiritual type.  Maybe you thought I’d talk about how my faith is the thing that fixed it all.  Maybe you’re even a little disappointed that that wasn’t the direction I took here, thinking I missed out on a good opportunity for a moral lesson.  Let me be the first one to say that my worldview IS the basis for everything that I do.  My trust in God and His word gives me purpose and direction daily.  But.

No matter what our faith, religion or worldview, it is a framework through which we filter the trials in our lives.  Your understanding of your purpose here on earth is the lense through which you view the challenges of parenting.  No religion or worldview eliminates difficulties or trials.  In fact, speaking to this issue specifically as a Christian, suffering and struggles are not only still a possibility as a believer in Christ, but a guaranteed part of the package …

For it has been granted to you for the sake of Christ you should not only believe in him but also suffer for his sake … Philippians 1:29

Therefore, let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful creator while doing good. I Peter 4:19

Anyone who tells you different is selling a package deal that is not offered by the manufacturer.  Run the other way.

Needing a “Fix”

Children are not little electronic devices that need a switch flipped or batteries replaced.  They are complex human beings who have a mixed-up jumble of thoughts, fears, joys and motives.  You know, kind of like you!

So, why is it that we so badly want there to be one right answer?  Why do we wish there was something written in the middle of that paper?  The magic bullet; the secret key?  That is a great question.  I am so glad that you asked!  Keep following!  Over the next little while (however  long it takes, interspersed with the other stuff I’m in the middle of writing about) I want us to look at some of the reasons we want there to be “one right answer” in parenting and in lots of other areas of life.  Won’t you join us on this adventure?  If you haven’t already, please be sure to join our mailing list so that you’ll be notified of new posts!

You can read the follow-up posts Part 1 and Part 2 here.

  • Yes! *raises hand sheepishly*
    I am so the one who has always been looking for the One Magic Trick that will save my parenting. Until I realized it was me.

    Great post, Lynna! I am hooked – can’t wait to read more!

    • Haha! Me, too, Nadine. I’ve been asking myself “Why do you keep looking for the ‘one right answer’?” and anything I have to share in the next few posts is really just the things I found when I looked at myself!